Choose what you mirror

When faced with the behaviours of others, whether positive or negative, we each have a choice. Do we mirror it and keep the cycle going? Or break the cycle?

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Fresh starts

We all have pasts. Some of them happy, some tragic, most a mixture of the two. If you have read any of my previous blogs you will know that I am a great believer in the power of getting to grips with that past so that we can learn from it. But there comes a […]

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The importance of being grateful

There is much made of the importance of gratitude to happiness. Yet there is also a temptation to dismiss ‘being grateful’ as unwarranted, particularly when we are feeling hard done by. The phrase is too often used to mean being beholden. It is too often used by people who tell us we ‘should be grateful’ […]

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Growth is a painful process

There is a reason shit happens to us or to our loved ones. I have no idea what it is and I would much rather it did not. But out of the pain comes growth. Creativity. Re-birth. Wisdom. Peace. Until the next pile hits the fan when the cycle begins again. Maybe the Buddhists are […]

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A sunny winters day

A little while ago at the end of February, I was standing at my back door looking out at my garden and looking forward to summer. Unusually for February in Scotland, it was warm and sunny. Very warm and sunny. So warm and sunny that I later picked my son up from school in sunglasses […]

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Darkness and Light

Life is all about balance. We can, to some extent, learn to balance our needs and responsibilities, other peoples priorities and our own, being healthy with allowing ourselves some treats. But there is a higher level of balance in our lives that we cannot alway control. Things just happen. Some bad, some good. A universal […]

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Resentment

I’ve recently come to realise exactly how tricky an emotion resentment is. It starts small. An irritation at a real or inferred promise not kept. A perceived unfairness where someone gets something that you do not. Over time it gathers more ‘stuff’to itself, a slight here, a small or large problem there. It grows, below […]

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